Stay at Home Mom

Are you a Stay at Home Mom just like me? “Stay At Home Mom" (SAHM) - I am forced to use this term until someone – please someone!- come up with a better name for us. Even the terms Housewife or Home Maker or Mess Manager doesn’t sound appealing enough for me. Maybe “Home Executive” is a bit ok.

The day of a SAHM neither begins nor ends. It goes on and on and on with endless chores to complete. It is a work which demands from us 365 days a year, 7 days a week and 24 hours a day. Are you really happy to be in such a demanding job? But one sure happy thing about this job is that you will never get fired from it.

Common household chores

Cooking food for the family
Bathing kids
Folding Laundry
Cleaning the house
Clearing the clutters in drawers, shelves etc.
Washing dishes
Picking up toys shattered around
Tucking your children into bed at night

If you have kids, you understand the expression “piles” of laundry - unending, unconquerable piles. The simple truth about laundry is that it is never done. This depresses me. More to the point, it annoys me.

A clean kitchen is nigh impossible to keep in a house of kids. Crusty cereal bowls, dried up juice glass, the crumbs on the counter, the spills on the floor
…… and with every sticky footstep the pressure builds.

Doing these chores repeatedly makes us get bitter and feel unappreciated. Isn’t it? Some sort of frustration creeps in. You start feeling like a SERVANT. Being a stay-at-home mom isn’t easy. Days spent without a single adult conversation, quieting your child’s screams in the store, cleaning bloody knees, carpooling, disciplining, changing diapers, packing lunches, cleaning house and planning meals may leave you wondering, “Is this really worth it?” The “I’m just a mom” syndrome attacks routinely, suggesting the world is moving on without you while you watch Barney with your 3-year-old. The demands upon a SAHM’s time are limitless. That’s just the truth. So unless we consciously choose to create space for our own-selves, we will find ourselves suffocating beneath the weights of legitimate but overwhelming demands.

Of course, we all crave an exciting and passionate life. At the same time, we believe that staying home to raise children is a priority and a gift. You surely can win over these conflicting feelings. Here are some points for you to remember and think to yourself during your work at home:

• You are the nurturer.
• You set the emotional and physical tone of the household.
• Your children feel safe around you and derive comfort from your attention to their needs. Your husband does, too.
• It is an expression of love each time you do an act of service for another person.
• Through every chore you convey that you care about them and that they are important to you.

These thoughts will definitely make you feel like a GODDESS and not anymore like a servant.