Affirmation of Love

Braiding your daughter’s hair can be a bonding, caring act remembered with warmth by both of you. I love pretty hair. Hair that has been combed smoothed and placed in just the right way. I love seeing little girls looking pretty with matching clips and hair-bands.

I enjoy doing the hair of my 2 lovely daughters. It is two to three minutes just us. I smoothly comb out their hair and play with it and we talk. It is very intimate to me. I have had some of the best conversations with my daughters while styling their hair in the mornings.

We come up with a different style every day. With every style I feel she gets an all new fresh look. With her sitting close to me and her soft lock of hair in my hand, I feel that’s the MOMENT. A warm feeling spreads within.

We moms are very eager and curious about our daughters’ hair right from pregnancy. Would it be thick or fine or curly? We keep wondering. Baby combs! When my daughters were babies my brother used to brush their tiny hairs with soft baby combs. They enjoy the soothing feel. What a lovely way of bonding!

Moms do every step in hair care with great care. My grandma and mom would show their care right from the selection of the best ingredients to do the home-made hair wash powder called shikakai.

Shikakai is referred to as "fruit for the hair." It has a naturally mild pH, and it gently cleans the hair without stripping it of natural oils. Indians use shikakai as a natural hair wash to promote hair growth and strengthen hair roots.

Though I don’t do it right from the scratch like them, I have take up the love for hair grooming from them. Moreover, it’s a fortune handed down generation after generation.

In our family tree,

we all are blessed with lustrous long hair

and blessed with loving mom who is a pro in fixing hair.

As Moms, we enjoy :-

1. Giving Shampoo bath to her at regular intervals.

2. Being very careful nothing hurts her eyes & she remains calm.

3. Drying her hair by untangling every single strand.

4. Smelling the heavenly fresh scent from her washed hair.

5. Praising her how she looks gorgeous in free hair.

6. Dressing up and selecting matching clips, hair bands from her ever added collection.

7. Styling her hair with lots of adjustments.

8. Waiting anxiously to read her expression when she sees in mirror soon after.

9. Taking all pride when she smiles at your work of art.

10. Doing minor corrections when something comes off.

11. Repeating steps 1 to 10 until we are lucky enough.

Ya, we don’t know how long this unique feeling of braiding our daughters hair may last. Very soon they would become big girls to take care of it all by themselves.

So I make it a point, that each stroke of comb is an affirmation of my love for her and it is not just another chore.

In my hometown India, braiding daughters hair is very special. In these snaps, we can easily feel the love between mother and daughter. It is a common form of socializing.

Sometimes when I am drained out of the busy day's work I sit & let loose my hair to relax.

My toddler starts combing my hair. It is really wordless. I close my eyes and feel treasured.

Stress Busters

Moms sometime feel too stressed out. We are out of balance. We end up feeling depleted and bad. It is at these times that "Nurturing" plays an important role.

Nurture yourself. Nurture someone or something else. It makes us feel good.

Nurturing things to do

• Bring your loved one a cold drink on a hot day or a hot drink on a cold day.
• Send a card to a friend.
• Spend a day outdoors alone or with friends.
• Make your friend dinner for her birthday.
• When your friend calls in a crisis, be there to listen.
• Tell your sister how great you think she is.
• Turn on your favorite music while you cook dinner.
• Let somebody else cook your dinner.
• Plan to spend a day alone with each of your kids.
• Give or get a massage.
• Remind yourself that you are a wonderful person.
• Ask somebody else to tell you what your 5 best qualities are.
• Plan a celebration for your own birthday. :)
• Sit and do nothing and think about whatever comes into your mind.
• Paint a painting, tell a story, sing a song.
• Keep a journal of your life.
• Give your loved one something you know he or she wants/needs or would enjoy having.
• Talk to people and tell them your thoughts about life.
• Call all of your friends or family members and ask them how they are. Listen to them and really understand what they feel and think.

To be nurturing sometimes requires making hard choices. We have many competing demands on our time.

The library books well past the due date, stains on the carpet, dust sitting on the blinds, jammed printer, soap scum in bathtubs, unchecked letter box ......endless.

All these can wait. We need to be charged up. We women hold the chord of the rhythm of our family. Any thought clutter of our mind or imbalance can shake the harmony of our entire family.

Do cheer up, my fella young ladies.....

ABC....s of Parenting

My younger daughter is learning Alphabets. I am learning Alphabets too. The ABC....s of Parenting. I love learning it afresh everyday.

A is for Acceptance.
Life deals us all sorts of cards. Accept what you can't change and move on.

B is for Boundaries.
Boundaries aren't barriers, they are safe limits within which kids can explore and develop.

C is for Communication.
Keep talking and listening to your kids and to each other.

D is for Determination.
Focus on achieving your positive goals and make sure you follow through.

E is for Effort.
Go the extra mile in everything you do and you will be rewarded with results.

F is for Family.
Recognize the uniqueness of your family and embrace it.

G is for Giving.
Be generous on every level in your parenting.

H is for Honesty.
Honesty is the only foundation on which to build trust.

I is for Involvement.
Get you kids involved in what you do.

J is for Journey.
Recognize the milestones you achieve along the way and the adversities you overcome.

K is for Kindness.
Show your kids compassion and basic human kindness.

L is for Love.
Love is unconditional. It's the strongest force there is.

M is for Manners.
Teach composure and good conduct. Lead by example.

N is for Nurturing.
Nurture your children's emotional needs.

O is for One-to-One.
It bonds the ties between each member of the family unit.

P is for Praise.
Reward good behavior with positive affirmation.

Q is for Quality Time.
Parenting may be hard work, but it isn't a chore. Cherish your special moments.

R is for Respect.
Provide your kids with the guidance they need to respect themselves and others.

S is for Sharing.
Sharing is the key to social skills and building strength in relationships.

T is for Time.
Manage your time efficiency to keep chaos and disarray at bay.

U is for Understanding.
Acknowledge your child's viewpoint and put yourself in their shoes.

V is for Values.
Teach your kids your family values.

W is for Wisdom.
Wisdom comes from experience and from having the courage to step forward & make mistakes.

X is for Kisses.
Kids and parents can't get enough of them.

Y is for You.
Look after yourself and recharge your batteries. If your emotional purse is empty, you'll have nothing to give your kids.

Z is for Zzzzzzzzzzzzz. Sweet dreams !

Love doesn't need a Reason

How many times have we asked our spouse, "Why do you love me ?", "Give me a reason ....", "What do you like in me the most ?" etc....

I am sure, everyone of us has asked these questions at one point or the other. We love to hear the reasons from them. We love to know why we are being loved if at all.

Maybe this is the most difficult question ever for men. They laugh sheepishly and end up saying something .....to our least expectation.

Actually "True Love doesn't need a Reason".

Some people never understand.

Once a lady when having a conversation with her lover, asked:


Lady : Why do you like me..? Why do you love me? Man : I can't tell the reason.. but I really like you..


Lady : You can't even tell me the reason... how can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?


Man : I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love U.



Lady : Proof ? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend 's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!

Man : Ok.ok!!! Erm...

because you are beautiful,
because your voice is sweet,
because you are caring,
because you are loving,
because you are thoughtful,
because of your smile,
because of your every movements.

The lady felt very satisfied with the man's answer.


Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and went in comma.


The Guy then placed a letter by her side,
here is the content:

Darling, Because of your sweet voice that I love you...Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.

Because of your care and concern that I like you..Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you.

Because of your smile,because of your every movements that I love you..

Now can you smile? Now can you move?No, therefore I cannot love you...

If love needs a reason, like now,There is no reason for me to love you anymore.

Does love need a reason?

NO ! Therefore,
I still LOVE YOU...


"True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime but lust just pushes away"

Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.'

Mature love says:'I need you because I love you.'

Lets put an end to our never ending chain of questions as "Why do u love me, darling...? Give me at least one valid reason....Just one, whatever it may be. Whether its because of my this or that or blah blah blah.....". By this time, I am sure your spouse would have snoozed off zzzzzzzzzz......

What Parents Say / What Parents Actually Mean

Parents Say ---------------->Parents Mean

* Make up your bed ----> Learn good habits

* Clean up your room ->Have order in your life

* Be careful ---------------> You're precious to us

* Do your homework -> Learn everything you can

* It's late ------------------> Get the rest you need

* Finish your project -> Use your talents to their fullest

* We love you -----------> We love you