Showing posts with label mothers love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mothers love. Show all posts

Jun 13, 2008

Angry Daughter

Daughters are such emotional & sentimental sweet hearts. They need constant reassurance of love and lots of appreciation. They thrive on unlimited praises.

Come on…..Moms can’t talk Goody-Goody always. Moms vent out sometimes…….OK OK many times. Daughters are too sensitive to take it light-heartedly. They get angry in a jiffy. They make a long face, sob, sulk, hide and what not. They are extremely strong willed. One second they are very sweet and cooperative, and then the next moment they may suddenly turn very angry and defiant. The smallest thing tends to set them off.

A small funny comment, throwing away a girly pinky stuff, comparing with others, praising their pals, remarking on studies, not believing their self-knit stories, paying no interest to their imaginary fairy world, criticizing their looks all these are triggers to their anger. Once any one of them is triggered daughters would sulk instantly.

It takes a long time to cool them. Moms can’t neglect their sulk. It hurts. It makes Moms guilty. A verbal fight or a temper tantrum is far better than sulking. It sends out a harsh message. You know what it is ……

Moms must understand that daughters’ sulking is not a conspiracy on their part. They are simply doing what argumentative strong willed children do. These children tend to push the limits further, test harder, resist longer, use more drama, all more than the verbally efficient child. It is just a way of expressing themselves.

After all, they are imitating us……We agree on it, isn’t it?

Jun 3, 2008

Affirmation of Love

Braiding your daughter’s hair can be a bonding, caring act remembered with warmth by both of you. I love pretty hair. Hair that has been combed smoothed and placed in just the right way. I love seeing little girls looking pretty with matching clips and hair-bands.

I enjoy doing the hair of my 2 lovely daughters. It is two to three minutes just us. I smoothly comb out their hair and play with it and we talk. It is very intimate to me. I have had some of the best conversations with my daughters while styling their hair in the mornings.

We come up with a different style every day. With every style I feel she gets an all new fresh look. With her sitting close to me and her soft lock of hair in my hand, I feel that’s the MOMENT. A warm feeling spreads within.



We moms are very eager and curious about our daughters’ hair right from pregnancy. Would it be thick or fine or curly? We keep wondering. Baby combs! When my daughters were babies my brother used to brush their tiny hairs with soft baby combs. They enjoy the soothing feel. What a lovely way of bonding!

Moms do every step in hair care with great care. My grandma and mom would show their care right from the selection of the best ingredients to do the home-made hair wash powder called shikakai.

Shikakai is referred to as "fruit for the hair." It has a naturally mild pH, and it gently cleans the hair without stripping it of natural oils. Indians use shikakai as a natural hair wash to promote hair growth and strengthen hair roots.

Though I don’t do it right from the scratch like them, I have take up the love for hair grooming from them. Moreover, it’s a fortune handed down generation after generation.

In our family tree,

we all are blessed with lustrous long hair

and blessed with loving mom who is a pro in fixing hair.

As Moms, we enjoy :-

1. Giving Shampoo bath to her at regular intervals.

2. Being very careful nothing hurts her eyes & she remains calm.

3. Drying her hair by untangling every single strand.

4. Smelling the heavenly fresh scent from her washed hair.

5. Praising her how she looks gorgeous in free hair.

6. Dressing up and selecting matching clips, hair bands from her ever added collection.

7. Styling her hair with lots of adjustments.

8. Waiting anxiously to read her expression when she sees in mirror soon after.

9. Taking all pride when she smiles at your work of art.

10. Doing minor corrections when something comes off.

11. Repeating steps 1 to 10 until we are lucky enough.

Ya, we don’t know how long this unique feeling of braiding our daughters hair may last. Very soon they would become big girls to take care of it all by themselves.

So I make it a point, that each stroke of comb is an affirmation of my love for her and it is not just another chore.

In my hometown India, braiding daughters hair is very special. In these snaps, we can easily feel the love between mother and daughter. It is a common form of socializing.



Sometimes when I am drained out of the busy day's work I sit & let loose my hair to relax.

My toddler starts combing my hair. It is really wordless. I close my eyes and feel treasured.


May 11, 2008

Happy Mothers Day

Whats in a Parenting Blog without a Mothers Day Post ? But still, Whats in a Mothers Day for a Mom who is pampered everyday just as her special day .....

Kids pamper me. Every other day they thrill me with ......


* Small bunch of roadside flowers collected with love

* Bits of love notes stuck all around the house

* Cool lemonades prepared with wrong proportion of sugar & lemon juice may turn out too sweet or too sour but they are in right proportion of love & care

* Applying Nail Polish for me with Stucco Effect

* Feeding me with their leftover cookies, lollipops and what not

* Taking my side whenever we have a family tussle

* Considering myself to be their all in all problem solver like the bug killer, the jammed jar opener, the lego tower builder, the big bubble blower, the high shelves things reacher etc...Mom is their Super Hero

* Instant watery eyes when I am hurt or in pain

* Believing strongly "Mom Knows". Mom knows the spelling of everything, how to win more tickets in Chuck-e-cheese, how to eat icecream without dripping...

* Sensing my emotions too fast like a robotic wonder with powerful sensors

* Singing my own crooked versions of lullaby for me

* Hugs & Kisses whenever I feel unsecured

Everyday is "Mothers Day" for moms who treasure their kids ........