Braiding my daughter's hair

Every Mom enjoys Braiding her li'l princess hair.......Me too. Let me share my personal joy in braiding my daughter's hair.....This is the topic for my next post.....Keep checking ...

Stress Busters

Moms sometime feel too stressed out. We are out of balance. We end up feeling depleted and bad. It is at these times that "Nurturing" plays an important role.

Nurture yourself. Nurture someone or something else. It makes us feel good.

Nurturing things to do

• Bring your loved one a cold drink on a hot day or a hot drink on a cold day.
• Send a card to a friend.
• Spend a day outdoors alone or with friends.
• Make your friend dinner for her birthday.
• When your friend calls in a crisis, be there to listen.
• Tell your sister how great you think she is.
• Turn on your favorite music while you cook dinner.
• Let somebody else cook your dinner.
• Plan to spend a day alone with each of your kids.
• Give or get a massage.
• Remind yourself that you are a wonderful person.
• Ask somebody else to tell you what your 5 best qualities are.
• Plan a celebration for your own birthday. :)
• Sit and do nothing and think about whatever comes into your mind.
• Paint a painting, tell a story, sing a song.
• Keep a journal of your life.
• Give your loved one something you know he or she wants/needs or would enjoy having.
• Talk to people and tell them your thoughts about life.
• Call all of your friends or family members and ask them how they are. Listen to them and really understand what they feel and think.

To be nurturing sometimes requires making hard choices. We have many competing demands on our time.

The library books well past the due date, stains on the carpet, dust sitting on the blinds, jammed printer, soap scum in bathtubs, unchecked letter box ......endless.

All these can wait. We need to be charged up. We women hold the chord of the rhythm of our family. Any thought clutter of our mind or imbalance can shake the harmony of our entire family.

Do cheer up, my fella young ladies.....

ABC....s of Parenting

My younger daughter is learning Alphabets. I am learning Alphabets too. The ABC....s of Parenting. I love learning it afresh everyday.

A is for Acceptance.
Life deals us all sorts of cards. Accept what you can't change and move on.

B is for Boundaries.
Boundaries aren't barriers, they are safe limits within which kids can explore and develop.

C is for Communication.
Keep talking and listening to your kids and to each other.

D is for Determination.
Focus on achieving your positive goals and make sure you follow through.

E is for Effort.
Go the extra mile in everything you do and you will be rewarded with results.

F is for Family.
Recognize the uniqueness of your family and embrace it.

G is for Giving.
Be generous on every level in your parenting.

H is for Honesty.
Honesty is the only foundation on which to build trust.

I is for Involvement.
Get you kids involved in what you do.

J is for Journey.
Recognize the milestones you achieve along the way and the adversities you overcome.

K is for Kindness.
Show your kids compassion and basic human kindness.

L is for Love.
Love is unconditional. It's the strongest force there is.

M is for Manners.
Teach composure and good conduct. Lead by example.

N is for Nurturing.
Nurture your children's emotional needs.

O is for One-to-One.
It bonds the ties between each member of the family unit.

P is for Praise.
Reward good behavior with positive affirmation.

Q is for Quality Time.
Parenting may be hard work, but it isn't a chore. Cherish your special moments.

R is for Respect.
Provide your kids with the guidance they need to respect themselves and others.

S is for Sharing.
Sharing is the key to social skills and building strength in relationships.

T is for Time.
Manage your time efficiency to keep chaos and disarray at bay.

U is for Understanding.
Acknowledge your child's viewpoint and put yourself in their shoes.

V is for Values.
Teach your kids your family values.

W is for Wisdom.
Wisdom comes from experience and from having the courage to step forward & make mistakes.

X is for Kisses.
Kids and parents can't get enough of them.

Y is for You.
Look after yourself and recharge your batteries. If your emotional purse is empty, you'll have nothing to give your kids.

Z is for Zzzzzzzzzzzzz. Sweet dreams !

Love doesn't need a Reason

How many times have we asked our spouse, "Why do you love me ?", "Give me a reason ....", "What do you like in me the most ?" etc....

I am sure, everyone of us has asked these questions at one point or the other. We love to hear the reasons from them. We love to know why we are being loved if at all.

Maybe this is the most difficult question ever for men. They laugh sheepishly and end up saying something .....to our least expectation.

Actually "True Love doesn't need a Reason".

Some people never understand.

Once a lady when having a conversation with her lover, asked:


Lady : Why do you like me..? Why do you love me? Man : I can't tell the reason.. but I really like you..


Lady : You can't even tell me the reason... how can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?


Man : I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love U.



Lady : Proof ? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend 's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!

Man : Ok.ok!!! Erm...

because you are beautiful,
because your voice is sweet,
because you are caring,
because you are loving,
because you are thoughtful,
because of your smile,
because of your every movements.

The lady felt very satisfied with the man's answer.


Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and went in comma.


The Guy then placed a letter by her side,
here is the content:

Darling, Because of your sweet voice that I love you...Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.

Because of your care and concern that I like you..Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you.

Because of your smile,because of your every movements that I love you..

Now can you smile? Now can you move?No, therefore I cannot love you...

If love needs a reason, like now,There is no reason for me to love you anymore.

Does love need a reason?

NO ! Therefore,
I still LOVE YOU...


"True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime but lust just pushes away"

Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.'

Mature love says:'I need you because I love you.'

Lets put an end to our never ending chain of questions as "Why do u love me, darling...? Give me at least one valid reason....Just one, whatever it may be. Whether its because of my this or that or blah blah blah.....". By this time, I am sure your spouse would have snoozed off zzzzzzzzzz......

Happy Mothers Day

Whats in a Parenting Blog without a Mothers Day Post ? But still, Whats in a Mothers Day for a Mom who is pampered everyday just as her special day .....

Kids pamper me. Every other day they thrill me with ......

* Small bunch of roadside flowers collected with love

* Bits of love notes stuck all around the house

* Cool lemonades prepared with wrong proportion of sugar & lemon juice may turn out too sweet or too sour but they are in right proportion of love & care

* Applying Nail Polish for me with Stucco Effect

* Feeding me with their leftover cookies, lollipops and what not

* Taking my side whenever we have a family tussle

* Considering myself to be their all in all problem solver like the bug killer, the jammed jar opener, the lego tower builder, the big bubble blower, the high shelves things reacher etc...Mom is their Super Hero

* Instant watery eyes when I am hurt or in pain

* Believing strongly "Mom Knows". Mom knows the spelling of everything, how to win more tickets in Chuck-e-cheese, how to eat icecream without dripping...

* Sensing my emotions too fast like a robotic wonder with powerful sensors

* Singing my own crooked versions of lullaby for me

* Hugs & Kisses whenever I feel unsecured

Everyday is "Mothers Day" for moms who treasure their kids ........

Patriotism

Nowadays most of us are Global Citizens. We are Globetrotters. We travel around the circumference of Globe. Every country has its own personal touch. Every country's attitude, flavors, weather, political gimmicks, cozy places, rich history, proud culture lingers in our soul. The more we are away from homeland, the more we love it. But still, the chance to compare & contrast the patriotic feelings in different countries is really great.

I love india, my homeland. But I feel I miss Singapore, all the more. The most precious chapters of my Life were written in Singapore. My daughters crawled around, explored in walkers, learnt to walk, had their every bumps & falls, talked in gibberish language, had their first birthdays.........all in Singapore. Singapore reminds me of all baby stuff. It reminds me of tiny booties, floral bibs, flavored pacifiers, baby toys and all sweet things.....We are sentimentally attached to Singapore. Count on us Singapore !